just a quick post coz i've got a heaps of p4 to do. --
a friend of mine has been pressured to stuff that she doesnt usually buy -- the main reason being the fact that she was "growing up", and to quote her sister: " she should start conforming with the norms. "
handbags and heels - i guess it doesnt really pose a problem from a religious point. so there should be no reason for her to argue on that matter. but of course when you look at it as a whole, religious people are usually associated with boring fashion. not that they do not have high tastes, but in my view, they just couldnt care less, coz they're looking ahead, waay beyond what others see, that is hoping for jannah. in their minds, they only say: why bother about this world?
but of course, we all should, at least, if not wanting more, be decent in our presentation. but the problem is, different people take decent differently. some think something is decent and presentable, but other thinks of the same thing being "kesian".
someone commented to me: "of course high heels arent as comfortable as other footwear mainly becoz usually high heels have the pointed toe kinda thing. it is necessary to start considering these kind of stuff, coz not everybody can accept the fact a grown up in a well respected family end up wearing kesian-like footwear."
but is it really necessary to fore go comfort in order to conform with the norm? i once watched project runaway, and one of the dress designed was in such a way that the model could not lift her arms (as in angkat sideways). one of the judges asked, and the designer simply answered "you have to sacrifice something in order to get outstanding results"
another male judge's response: "i'm sure a girl would even be willing to cut her own flesh if it means being most fashionable and attractive". this is particularly sad but true.
of course we, all of us who's reading this wouldnt do such thing, but to some extent, yes, we are willing to. like me, frankly, wearing my two inch thick boots are comfortable. but once i wear it from early morning sampai late night, my feet will hurt. but i will not hesitate to wear it the next time - coz i know my kaki will hurt for that night je. next morning it'll turn out purrfectly fine.
why, in the first place couldnt i just stick to my other sandals (that is totally acceptable) yang even if i wear it dari pagi sampai malam, wouldnt hurt my kaki. kaki sakit overnight: a price that is too small to pay for the look of the boots?
yes, to some extent, i am willing to sakit kaki overnight, if according to me, there is a need to. but some people just dont see the need, which i not only blame them, but respect them to some extent. i think there is no use of forcing people to accept the norm, when they, in the obvious, do not want to. but again, i stress the point that it is necessary to present one's self decently and in a presentable manner. what is decent, and what is presentable? that is up to one's own judgement.
a friend of mine has been pressured to stuff that she doesnt usually buy -- the main reason being the fact that she was "growing up", and to quote her sister: " she should start conforming with the norms. "
handbags and heels - i guess it doesnt really pose a problem from a religious point. so there should be no reason for her to argue on that matter. but of course when you look at it as a whole, religious people are usually associated with boring fashion. not that they do not have high tastes, but in my view, they just couldnt care less, coz they're looking ahead, waay beyond what others see, that is hoping for jannah. in their minds, they only say: why bother about this world?
but of course, we all should, at least, if not wanting more, be decent in our presentation. but the problem is, different people take decent differently. some think something is decent and presentable, but other thinks of the same thing being "kesian".
someone commented to me: "of course high heels arent as comfortable as other footwear mainly becoz usually high heels have the pointed toe kinda thing. it is necessary to start considering these kind of stuff, coz not everybody can accept the fact a grown up in a well respected family end up wearing kesian-like footwear."
but is it really necessary to fore go comfort in order to conform with the norm? i once watched project runaway, and one of the dress designed was in such a way that the model could not lift her arms (as in angkat sideways). one of the judges asked, and the designer simply answered "you have to sacrifice something in order to get outstanding results"
another male judge's response: "i'm sure a girl would even be willing to cut her own flesh if it means being most fashionable and attractive". this is particularly sad but true.
of course we, all of us who's reading this wouldnt do such thing, but to some extent, yes, we are willing to. like me, frankly, wearing my two inch thick boots are comfortable. but once i wear it from early morning sampai late night, my feet will hurt. but i will not hesitate to wear it the next time - coz i know my kaki will hurt for that night je. next morning it'll turn out purrfectly fine.
why, in the first place couldnt i just stick to my other sandals (that is totally acceptable) yang even if i wear it dari pagi sampai malam, wouldnt hurt my kaki. kaki sakit overnight: a price that is too small to pay for the look of the boots?
yes, to some extent, i am willing to sakit kaki overnight, if according to me, there is a need to. but some people just dont see the need, which i not only blame them, but respect them to some extent. i think there is no use of forcing people to accept the norm, when they, in the obvious, do not want to. but again, i stress the point that it is necessary to present one's self decently and in a presentable manner. what is decent, and what is presentable? that is up to one's own judgement.
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Hm. I can't wear high heels even if I wanted to. It'll be good training for my (lack of) posture and balance, but ... no thanks. I much prefer flats and sandals, and there are cute, nice, decent-looking non-heels out there. And even for formal events; dinners and such -- nobody's there to check if all the girls have 3++inch heels on. It is to me, such a petty thing. Maybe all we need is some confidence, to go "against the norm".
I remember that Project Runway (psst, only one A ;p ) episode, but that show and the fashion industry is probably way on the extreme side. Most of the clothes on the runway aren't wearable either, it's like they design for artsy, "magnificent" sakes and then have to tone it down for the rest of the human population to wear. But this is another topic altogether. ;)
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