“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”
— Erich Fromm (The Art of Loving)
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Love, a powerful emotion (if i may call it that), is a decision?
God. I have always wanted to constantly love God. For the deen that He has blessed me; for the knowledge that He has given me; for the people that He has sent and will send, especially, and only especially for me, for the opportunities that He has laid upon me, for the hope of rainbows and sunshines when everything seems to be dark and gloomy.
if love is a decision, i have long ago decided to love Him. but even today, i struggle to do so. after all that He has given me, i fail to love Him as i should.
what about all those people? those people who act beyond limits under the name of love.
if love is a decision, people shouldn't go around acting recklessly, then turning around pinpoint-ing to love and say that its the sole cause for the mess made - the root cause of everything that's happened.
what about the other group of people, who just cant get over and done with the past.
if love is a decision, all they have to make - to regain their lives - is the decision to stop loving. but why - even if it's already been decided - it keeps on coming back to them in their nightmares, worst still when they come face to face with the person whom they supposedly have stopped loving?
And
Is hate, which i presume to be the opposite of love, a decision too?
There are some people in this world who just cant click with each other. frankly speaking, i know of one guy whom i hate for nothing. the second he opens his mouth to converse with me, my head will scream out loud: shut up will you?! even if they were perfectly normal sentences! (which i wouldnt have minded if it came from someone else). i do feel sorry for him, but as what ppl say, sometimes you just cant stop hating.
i know it isnt fair for him. if hate was a decision, then i should be able crawl my way out to be on good terms with him. but my heart wont budge. the only solution that i have found to date is to avoid him as much as i can. i'm sorry
love Is a decision. it Is a judgement. it Is a promise.
but of course it is not merely that. the repercussions of loving is too vast that even if we make a decision to love, sometimes it is as good as making none; if we dont have the determination to keep on loving.
but of course it is not merely that. the repercussions of loving is too vast that even if we make a decision to love, sometimes it is as good as making none; if we dont have the determination to keep on loving.
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When good looks and svelte figures fade, when the hormonal rush dies down, when the bills pile up, when difficulties arise, it's a continuous, conscious choice and effort to continue to love.
With God, it's an unending battle every second of everyday to choose to do the right thing, to choose to do what pleases Him.
With hate, again it's your choice to let the illogical feelings pass or to act with rage.
Love IS a decision, as is everything in human life. Afterall, isn't this freedom of choice (free will) what sets man apart from all other beings?
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